Eulogies are a public tribute to a private person. Whether you have lost your father, your mother, your sister or brother, paying public tribute to them helps with the healing of your grief. It also means that you can share your family memories of them with others who mourn. When someone dies, of course, you have people to notify, notices to insert in the paper and a funeral to arrange. Writing a eulogies might be the last thing on your mind. Yet in a way when you are talking to other family members and friends you are gathering information about the deceased that would give you a lots of material for your eulogy.
Someone might say how generous the deceased was and give an instance of that generosity. Someone else might mention his or her wonderful sense of humor. Again you might hear something you hadn’t realized about his or her career. Then of course, there are your own thoughts on the subject. When someone you love dies you think of all the times and activities you shared. Wouldn’t it be lovely to put them into words that will be remembered? It’s not as hard as it might seem. It is a question of saying what is in your heart.
Sometimes, of course, someone dies in the fullness of time. While we grieve for them we are glad that they have had a full and long life. At other times, though, we are grieving for someone younger who has been cut down in their prime. Alternatively Finally, and probably saddest of all we are could be grieving for the loss of a child.
Your heart may be broken at the time of the funeral but it is still a time when your memories are freshest. It is still a time when you want to share your feelings of loss and grief with the others attending the funeral. Sharing grief like that is helpful and that is why a eulogy should be an important part of the funeral service. It is particularly helpful if you can mention that the deceased had a belief in the afterlife and that you share the belief that they are now happy in Heaven.
So gather your thoughts and ask others for their memories and then write your eulogy. You will be surprised at how much those present at the funeral will empathies with it and appreciate it and be glad that you shared your feelings with them. It may be hard at the time but you will be glad after-wards that you said what was in your heart.