Self esteem is not something that one can program in to you. It is a form of development within yourself, which has to be done by you for you are the master of your own life.
There are reasons for many to believe that they are worth nothing or that they can never achieve anything in life. If you are one of them who feel they are inadequate for anything, then here are a few things you need to remind yourself every time you feel low and upset about yourself.
Self esteem is something that has to come from within, and when I say this, I mean it strongly that we all have it inside us. It just takes some soul searching before we reach the state of self awareness or self confidence. This process of soul searching may not always be possible without a guide, or a friend who is may be the one who has been able to listen to your troubles and give you options in which you can find the solution for yourself. Even if you feel you have no one as such to advise you or show you the path, there are professional doors always open in such emergencies.??
How to increase self esteem?
The process of increasing your self esteem begins with belief in something that you have, your own potential. A small anecdote that I recall now is the one I heard from my teacher when I was in junior school. There were three servants of a king who were given three boxes of gift on Christmas, and the king said nothing to them about opening the boxes. The first servant was too afraid to open the box for he thought he was too humble in situation to open the kings gift. The second servant decided to wait for the kings order before he could open the box. The third servant thought that the box has now become his property as the king has completely gifted it to him and it now becomes his responsibility to open it and see what is there inside it so that he can pay gratitude to the king. When he opened the box, he saw that there was a golden duck inside who could have died if the box had been kept closed for too long. The golden ducks in the boxes of the other two servants died because they were scared to open their gifts.
The moral of the story is that we all have some gifts in us, given by someone above us. You may believe in God or you may not. But this is for sure that this life is a gift, and the ability to use it is also within you. It only depends on you, how you will expand your horizon and spread your golden wings.??
What is self worth?
Self worth is a form of appreciating yourself. Appreciation does not always have to be in the most conventional way. If you do not get good grades, that should not make you a bad person. There must be something that you do well, and with the world going big, the opportunity to live your dream is also increasing. To know your own self is to have self esteem. This process is not one that comes from outside, but from inside. Try this process. Look at yourself in the mirror, preferably a full length one, every day for ten minutes. This is a good exercise for the mind and soul. Look at yourself keenly and find the things that you like about yourself. They do not necessarily have to be about your looks, as your body is not what defines you. Your thoughts, your beliefs, your values, your inner self is what is you. For the first five days, just continue to look at yourself and find the things that are inside you.
Once you feel that you are ready to count at least five things about yourself that make you a person worthy of being a part of this grand world, talk to yourself. Stand in front of the mirror, and talk to yourself about whatever you feel. Try to keep the talk positive, for it is you who is giving the soul talk to yourself. Talk about anything, and try to find the solution for the person in the mirror. You are no more in need of a guide. The person sitting opposite to you is in need of you. That person is in urgent need of your advice and motivation, and you are important for that person.
It is all in the mind, as they say. and to find what is in your mind, you will have to sit down with yourself and know yourself. The esteem that comes within your own self is self esteem, and that is right within you. You do not need anybody else to grow that for you.??
Self worth comes from you!