Meaning of Success – Success Habits You Never Learned in Middle School

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The meaning of success has always been and still remains a puzzling concept. For centuries, ancient philosophers and spiritual leaders have enlightened us with powerful theories on this subject. Yet, it’s centuries later, and we’re still asking the age old question, “Success, what does it mean?” By definition, it is not a supernatural event. It’s not something that will mysteriously appear out of thin air. Success is a habit. It’s a routine that is repeated many times over ones lifetime. It’s a meaningful journey that promises to bring you the desired results you seek; provided that you stay on course and on target. Unfortunately, you may still have no clue what it takes to achieve such results. You’ve spent many of your formative years in school, but unfortunately were never taught certain success habits that guarantee joy and prosperity. This post will examine some of these habits.

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Taking Big Risks
It’s very likely that you were taught in middle school that risk-taking is not only wicked, but potentially life-threatening. You were also probably taught that risk-taking is the same as recklessness. This couldn’t be furthest from the truth. Risk-taking involves carefully analyzing and designing a specific action plan, and then weighing the level of gain or loss associated with such a plan before proceeding. Recklessness involves taking action based on blind faith where the chances of achieving success are limited. Unfortunately, you never learned the difference between the two, which likely led you down the path of mediocrity, complacency, and inferiority in later years. To ensure success by design, school-aged children must be taught the importance of risking-taking.

Applying the Pareto Principle
To fully understand the meaning of success, you must first grasp and apply the Pareto Principle. Whether or not you have ever heard of the Pareto Principle, you are possibly familiar with the 80/20 Rule. This rule states that 80 percent of individuals will achieve success totaling a mere 20 percent total outcome, while the remaining 20 percent of individuals will achieve a massive 80 percent total outcome. This means that a small number of people achieve wealth and happiness, because they regularly spend 80 percent of their efforts on major affairs, and 20 percent on minor ones. Although this is an ancient concept, there are many who were never taught this in middle school, and you are likely one of them. The Pareto Principle is a success habit that needs to be learned early in childhood.

Selling Value
Not knowing how to sell will not only impede your success, but could very possibly bring you a life of prolonged deprivation. Selling is not exclusive to the marketplace. You need it in almost every area of your life from selling candy for your child’s school fundraising program to selling your car to your neighbor. However, no public school that you ever attended had ever taught you how to find customers, demonstrate your product or service, overcome objections, and finally close the sale. Selling is one of the highest paid professions in the world, and successful sales professionals like Brian Tracy and W. Clement Stone have made millions of dollars doing it. Yet, you were nothing taught how to sell in middle school, and grew up forced to take weeks of intensive sales classes in your adult life to acquire this success habit if you decided to go into sales.

Negotiating Effectively
Have you ever bought an item only to find out later that you overpaid for it? If so, then you know how terrible it feels. Negotiating a good purchase price for the item would have allowed you to pay a much better price for it, and feel a great sense of pride in the end. Possessing good negotiating skills is not only important for entrepreneurs, but it can also benefit preschoolers. A kindergartener who acquires negotiating skills will generally achieve success in sales and acquisitions in later life on a larger scale, while a kindergartener with no negotiating skills will fall short on many consumer transactions. Sadly, you were never taught this success habit in middle school, and therefore may have lost lots of money in later years due to either unintentionally accepting extreme lowball price offers from savvy buyers or paying sellers for overprice goods.

Earning and Saving Money
Knowing how to earn and save money is a success habit that will almost always secure great triumph in life. Unfortunately, few people have ever acquired such education or training either in middle school or at home, and you might even fall into this group yourself. The usual outcome later in life is a painful mixture of meager earnings, out-of-control spending, massive debts, lawsuits, court-order judgments, wage garnishments, and damaged credit. Studies have shown that children, who learn moneysaving strategies early in life, stand a greater chance of making sound financial decisions when they reach adulthood than children who never learn such strategies. Financial success is a major component for achieving freedom and peace of mind, and is the reason it needs to be taught to school-aged children.

Success doesn’t just happen. It has to be learned through repeated effort. It needs to be nurtured and managed regularly. In truth, success habits start at home with parents teaching their young children the fundamentals of organized planning, relationship building, and measured progress. Nevertheless, children need more advanced training from experts with many years of experience and working knowledge. Regrettably, you and many of your adult peers are dealing with the backlash that has resulted from a school system that only regards reading and mathematics as the core curriculum for success in later life. In spite of this, you can correct this faux pas by learning these habits on your own. And while you’re at it, teach your middle school-aged children as well.

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Janice is a writer from Chicago, IL. She created the "simple living as told by me" newsletter with more than 12,000 subscribers about Living Better and is a founder of Seekyt.