Some of the more well known divorces appear to go by without any trauma at all. And then there are those who seem to be doing it on a regular basis! Look at people like Khloe Kardashian, she just seems to go from one to the other. Then you have the John Cena divorce, which took place some years ago, but clearly it has left wounds. John Cena is adamant that he will never marry again or have children. His current on and off relationship is rather rocky because of this. Then you have the everlasting batchelor, George Clooney, who had basically vowed the same, but now after so many, many years, has found someone who has stolen his heart. Suddenly, he is engaged to be married. So, you see there is hope for everyone!
Getting real about divorce, let’s face it, divorce is traumatic for everyone, regardless of whether they initiate it or not. There is no-one who gets out unscathed. Breaking up is hard to do and it will leave you with feelings of disappointment, grief and stress. A divorce can send you into a time of mourning. You may not understand why this is, especially when you were the one who wanted the divorce. It is the death of plans, dreams, a life together that went so wrong. It is only natural that you will experience a terrible sense of loss.
Divorce destabilizes you and can make you feel insecure, lost and unbalanced. However, even though you may not feel emotionally up to it, there is life after divorce. Healing takes time and patience and there comes a time when you need to move on. You should spend time with those who support you and more than ever, you will need to nurture and care for yourself.
Divorce recovery can be difficult, but there are divorce recovery groups who give divorce recovery support. Being part of such a group will really help you with moving on. It is important for every individual who has experienced divorce to allow time to grieve the loss of a significant relationship. Emotions should never be covered up and you should always talk about the way you feel. Remember that you are working towards an end goal of moving on, this is not going to happen in a day. There is always a future for you, even after divorce. Just how great your future will be is going to be entirely up to you.
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