Successful marriage tips
Many of us believe that marriages are made in heaven! As children, all of us must have dreamt of an ideal married life, like that of fairy tales and movies. When we grow up, we soon realize that things are not the way we had dreamt of. In reality, it takes a lot more than just love to make a relation last forever. Love is one of the main ingredients while the others being patience, tolerance, respect for each other, understanding, adjustment, the strength of being able to sacrifice for your other half etc. After few years of marriage, all these things start lessening. The never ending promises of love start breaking and once ego gets in between your relation, things can turn real bad.
If you have children then separation is never the best solution. Parents get divorced or separated without realizing the fact that their children are the ones to suffer the most. A child needs both his mother and father to raise him into a good and responsible person. Many children are never able to accept and overcome the fact that their parents are separated. On top of it, if either of the parents gets married once again, the child is even more affected. He or she might not show or express their dissatisfaction with it but might suffer from within. Such children are often mentally affected because of being dissatisfied and depressed.
So try to save your marriage in every possible way.
Here are some tips that can surely help you-
Understand the problem between you and your better half. Try to sort out the problem that makes you both fight or creates problems between you two. Talk to each other and try to understand what creates the problem. Talking is the best way to come out of any kind of problem. So talk to each other about it and while talking, do not start arguing. Most couples think that arguing is also talking but thats not so. Talking means listening to each others problems and complains. Sometimes, just talking can reduce lots of problems.
Respect each other and each others life. Respecting your spouse wont lessen your self-esteem. Infact, it will earn respect from your spouse in return. Understand their feelings and point of view. Try to understand why he or she dislikes something about you and try to change it. Do not take it in a negative way but think that it might save your relation!
Most of the times it is seen that either one of the spouse complains that their husband or wife does not give them time. We all know that in todays world; we need to earn in order to live a well off life but that does not mean that you should avoid your better half. Make time for them. At least once a week, go out for a romantic dinner, movie and a long drive or may be just a simple long walk. Make each other feel special, make each other feel how important they are to you. A life without your better half would be just incomplete and empty, make them feel that you need them! Do not ever forget anniversaries and birthdays. Remembering small events like when you first met or first kissed can also make each other feel important.
The last and the sweetest tip would be: do not forget to say that you love them. Nothing in this world is sweeter than hearing your husband or wife say that they love you! So discover new ways of conveying your feelings to them. For instance, make small notes saying I love you! and keep them in places where they can find it like in kitchen, study table or even on the pillow before they go to bed at night. Keep it romantic!
With these few tips, try to make you relation as good as new. Losing a loved one makes you regret in the end. Marriage is a partnership. You can never keep it together alone, it needs effort and patience!