Starting a family is a big decision. It is something that shouldnt be entered into lightly. It seems that too many people dont fully understand the ramifications of starting a family and they fail to plan beforehand. But it doesnt have to be difficult; there are just a few things to keep in mind before you make the decision to bring a new life into this world.
Buying a Big Enough House
Whether you are in a financial position to buy a house, or if you are more comfortable renting, it is imperative that you have a house that can handle your family. While it isnt entirely necessary, it is beneficial for each child to have their own bedroom. This becomes even more evident as the children grow up and become teenagers. Having a space that they can call their own helps them to grow their identity.
Having an Office Space
If you work from home, you will definitely want a space that is away from the family where you can get some work done. Many people try to utilize a room for two different purposes, such as a play room and an office in the corner. While it CAN work, it is definitely not the ideal situation. By minimizing distractions you will be able to get more work done in less time. That means more time to spend with your family.
Schools, Neighbors, and Churches
As society progresses it seems that social aspects are becoming less and less important. People prefer to watch TV, use their computers, or play on their smart phones rather than interact with their neighbors. Before having a child, or moving to a bigger house to raise your children, look at what school district you will be in. Are there good churches or other facilities nearby to help them develop? What is the neighborhood like, and are there parks where the kids can get exercise? These are all important pieces of your family life; many people dont realize that.
Its Not a Tax Credit
If you are planning to have a child because it makes for a good tax incentive, you are having a child for entirely the wrong reasons. Children take a lot of time, care, and money. The couple thousand dollars that you get back on your taxes as a result of having children is just a drop in the bucket. It is a nice bonus, but it should definitely not even be a contributing factor to the decision to have children.
When you are trying to have children, keep in mind that birth control can take several months to wear off. So dont despair when things dont go your way immediately. There are a number of natural ways to help increase fertility, so using dangerous fertility drugs should be the last option on your list.
Raising a child is one of lifes greatest joys. But it should be done after the proper preparations have been made. What is the biggest lesson you have learned from having children?